By: Catherine Townsend-Lyon “It’s hard to walk away from a winning streak, even harder to leave the table when you’re on a losing one.” ― Cara Bertoia I Was Gambling with My Life and Mental Health My recovery journey started again in 2006. I woke up in a hospital as the result […]
For many addicts and alcoholics coming to terms with the puzzle of addiction – knowing they need to change and doing the complete opposite is frustrating and scary. However, the good news is that the barriers and objections are within you and that means you have the ability to change them. It’s just a matter of isolating them, examining them and then changing what doesn’t work or fit anymore.
The reality is that change is going to feel painful, unfamiliar, uncomfortable, and uncertain. Too often people focus only on their pain, what they will have to go through to change, without reflecting on the pain that their actions have caused loved ones and friends.
People who have relapsed can learn something from the experience. But, for the rest of us, those lessons are best learned from a distance. We can learn from watching what others go through when they relapse. This is a better alternative than learning first-hand.
If we failed to take notice with the push, then we should expect a ‘where did that come from’ moment that took us up short, and forced us to see. That’s the nature of our life lessons; they will keep coming and with more force each time we refuse to pay attention to the easier way.
The difference is once you get past that first one, you have acquired the skills to do so, as well as the confidence that you can do it again. Any wall you will face in the future will feel a lot smaller, and a lot less in
I heard an old-timer at a meeting once say, ‘You know, the first few years of sobriety were a blast because the changes were so drastic and everything was so new. Now it’s…’ and then he talked about mowing his lawn. I had read the writing on the walls – sobriety becomes boring.