Addiction forces us to wear a false image. We smile, when every fiber of our being is screaming in pain. We posture as friendly, when all we want to do is get our dope and leave. We pretend that we have it all together when we take our children to school or football. We show fake emotions because we are so embarrassed and frightened by our authentic ones.Read More
How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.Read More
Many people have tried to recover and hit yet another lower bottom because they keep trying unsuccessful methods. If this has happened to you, then this bottom can be the last if you do things differently.
I’ve always thought that the quote from Israelmore Ayivor speaks to all the ways we’ve tried to overcome our addiction on our own, and haven’t been successful. “You need to GIVE UP on methods that always give you wrong results… No matter how committed you are with a wrong formula, it always gives a wrong answer. Give up!”
Guilt motivates some people to change; they feel bad about their behaviors and they want these feelings to stop, so they change, and make amends.
Shame, however, often paralyzes people. Their distorted opinion of themselves leads them to believe that no one could forgive them for their actions; they think they are so worthless and undeserving of absolution that they often do not try to make amends.
Most of us give excuses when we do not want to do something, or someone questions us about why, when, or how we did or did not do something.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis “Fear’s useless. Either something bad happens or it doesn’t: If it doesn’t, you’ve wasted time being afraid, and if it does, you’ve wasted time that you could have spent sharpening your weapons.” ― Sarah Rees Brennan, The Demon’s Lexicon Fearful Emotions are Predictable and Spontaneous Emotions are a reaction […]Read More
An easy way to get acquainted with people in any recovery support meeting is to ask questions. You might be surprised at the answers. However, don’t just ask questions just to appear interested. Instead, use the suggestions and directions.Read More
When you learn to separate the various pieces of the puzzle, they become manageable pieces – to change, keep, or modify. This makes any overwhelming problem puzzle easier to solve.Read More
“…It’s why we have this second chance, and we can’t throw it away. Besides, you were the one who said we’re not exactly the same as we were back then. If we’re not the same, then things can turn out differently.” ― Michelle MadowRead More