hope from addict 2 advocate Annie Marek-Barta on Upsplash

Changes Give Us Hope for a Better Future

For many addicts and alcoholics coming to terms with the puzzle of addiction – knowing they need to change and doing the complete opposite is frustrating and scary. However, the good news is that the barriers and objections are within you and that means you have the ability to change them. It’s just a matter of isolating them, examining them and then changing what doesn’t work or fit anymore.

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from addict 2 advocate

Ambivalence: It is Time-Consuming and Not Getting You Anywhere

Ambivalence or of two minds happens when a person has both positive and negative feelings about someone or something and is struggling with deciding which option has more merit.

You’ll know you are ambivalent if you think conflicting thoughts about something, or hear yourself talking about a subject and then qualify it with a “but….”, “however…..”, or “on the other hand I think or feel……”.

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from addict 2 advocate

Okay, I Need to Change – But to What?

In one of my first lectures in treatment, I kept hearing about the spiritual principles that I needed to incorporate into my recovery.  For the principles listing on the sign-up sheet, I falsely assumed that I’d go to a dimly lit room, with incense wafting and cloistered monks reading from musty, dusty tomes.  I hoped that they would enlighten me and give me ancient wisdom on how to change.

Instead, I learned from recovering people like myself in recovery support meetings.

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from addict 2 advocate

More Afraid of Staying the Same or Changing?

For most of us, we’re afraid when we think about changing the patterns of our lives, whether it’s giving up drugs or alcohol, or changing the way we think, feel, and act. After all, we have done or been something for so long that those actions, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are mechanical or habituated. These predictable actions are the norm, and when we leave the comfort zone, we get anxious.

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from addict 2 advocate marilyn l davis transforming distorting

Addiction is Distorting, Recovery is Transforming

How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.

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