By: Jess Gaggi “Don’t you think you’re quite young?’ ‘I’m twenty-one,’ said Brida. ‘If I wanted to start learning ballet, I’d be considered too old.” ― Paulo Coelho Yeah, We’re Young: Famous People and Me: Born in 1995 ___ The name is Gaggi, Jess Gaggi. No, it isn’t my maiden name but let’s […]Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Too Damaged to Heal? No one reading this is so damaged that some healing cannot occur. I have worked with survivors of extreme sexual abuse, starting as young as age three. In and out of mental institutions; multiple addictions, some who now have over 20 years of abstinence based recovery, […]Read More
In meetings, we’ll hear people talk about Stinking Thinking and know they’re talking about the faulty logic or the negative thoughts. But what are some types of thinking that get us in trouble, cause us to view the world through a distorted lens, or just don’t make sense when we analyze them?Read More
If you think about this logically, anyone that “falls in love” with you early in your recovery is getting involved with a person that you are trying to change. Therefore, you would have to stay the same to sustain the relationship, and that would be the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish in yoRead More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Are You Behaving Like a King or Queen in Early Recovery? “Little by little, the old world crumbled, and not once did the king imagine that some of the pieces might fall on him.” ― Jennifer Donnelly, Revolution Many addicts and alcoholics create the false belief that the world […]Read More
How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.Read More
Many people have tried to recover and hit yet another lower bottom because they keep trying unsuccessful methods. If this has happened to you, then this bottom can be the last if you do things differently.
I’ve always thought that the quote from Israelmore Ayivor speaks to all the ways we’ve tried to overcome our addiction on our own, and haven’t been successful. “You need to GIVE UP on methods that always give you wrong results… No matter how committed you are with a wrong formula, it always gives a wrong answer. Give up!”