The psychiatrist and Course in Miracles teacher Jerry Jampolsky in Goodbye to Guilt calls forgiveness “the ultimate challenge” (p. 149). We cling to hurts, slights, insults, betrayals, wrongs, anger, resentments, annoyances—and on and on, through months, years, decades, and, before we blink, a lifetime.Read More
When I was younger, I always thought there was this better version of me that I was waiting to grow into. That may very well be true, but thinking of a heaven in the future can make a hell out of the present. Speaking of damnation, I’ve had a deep and vicious fear of hell all throughout my life. One that waited, hungry for me at the end of this life.Read More
Did I realize that I’d taken up arms against my children when I started using? No, I did not set out to harm them; however, that was the result. And just as the history books record the injustices done, each of my children recollects the harm from her perspective.Read More
In one of my first lectures in treatment, I kept hearing about the spiritual principles that I needed to incorporate into my recovery. For the principles listing on the sign-up sheet, I falsely assumed that I’d go to a dimly lit room, with incense wafting and cloistered monks reading from musty, dusty tomes. I hoped that they would enlighten me and give me ancient wisdom on how to change.
Instead, I learned from recovering people like myself in recovery support meetings.Read More