Families develop a blind eye about the elephant in the room, and pretend that something so obvious as the neglect, abuse, or dysfunction do not exist. Recovering from these issues is as important as recovering from addiction.Read More
For many addicts and alcoholics coming to terms with the puzzle of addiction – knowing they need to change and doing the complete opposite is frustrating and scary. However, the good news is that the barriers and objections are within you and that means you have the ability to change them. It’s just a matter of isolating them, examining them and then changing what doesn’t work or fit anymore.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Is Our Addiction Patiently Waiting to Bloom? “Every habit he’s ever had is still there in his body, lying dormant like flowers in the desert. Given the right conditions, all his old addictions would burst into full and luxuriant bloom. Margaret Atwood When I found the […]Read More
“It’s about making a list of all the people you’ve harmed, either emotionally, physically or financially, and going back and making amends. That’s a spiritual lifestyle. It’s not a fluffy ethereal concept.” ― Anthony Kiedis, lead singer, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and author of Scar Tissue
But that’s the cycle of addiction.
Rather than be trapped in the loop of addiction, travel that road again and see what you missed on the first trip.
By: Marilyn L. Davis Too Damaged to Heal? No one reading this is so damaged that some healing cannot occur. I have worked with survivors of extreme sexual abuse, starting as young as age three. In and out of mental institutions; multiple addictions, some who now have over 20 years of abstinence based recovery, […]Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis “I’ve come to believe that in everyone’s life, there’s one undeniable moment of change, a set of circumstances that suddenly alters everything.” Nicholas Sparks ___ Words of Wisdom about Change Are some of you wondering how often I can write about change? Get tired of me prattling on […]Read More
The reality is that change is going to feel painful, unfamiliar, uncomfortable, and uncertain. Too often people focus only on their pain, what they will have to go through to change, without reflecting on the pain that their actions have caused loved ones and friends.Read More
People who have relapsed can learn something from the experience. But, for the rest of us, those lessons are best learned from a distance. We can learn from watching what others go through when they relapse. This is a better alternative than learning first-hand.Read More
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In about three weeks, I’ll celebrate 25 years in recovery. I look back in utter amazement and gratitude, often humbled by the spiritual family that cared enough, and loved me enough, to call me out on my BS. I was raised old school AA ―structure, traditions, service positions, always involved in some fashion.Read More
By: C. W. Stratton “Feeling powerless and not acting is like being hungry and not choosing to eat.” ~Naoshad Pochkhanawala Step 1 or Stalled? The recovery process is full of concepts, phrases, simple quotes, and words that we either take for granted or use them to our advantage in many ways. When we […]Read More
Those feelings and thoughts about our life were held down rather like a jack-in-the-box – hidden away only by the mechanism of the box, or in the case of our addiction, by our use.
Take away the drugs and alcohol, and the feelings come flooding back, seemingly without rhyme or reason. However, emotional memory stores all those old feelings. They are still there.Read More
At that moment, I truly valued and appreciate this job. It wasn’t prestigious, glamorous, or a job that anyone would covet, but it was my job. And it was a job that let me leave the campus at 10:30 every day, eat a quick mid-morning snack, and make a noon recovery support meeting.Read More
People in my recovery support meetings said I had to look at myself, when that was the last thing I wanted to do. I disliked what I saw in a mirror, let alone go within to discover that I was like the Picture of Dorian Gray, presenting favorably to the world, but full of self-serving, self-centered, unhealthy characteristics, and a perception of evil inside. It was difficult to face, that much like Dorian, I had sold my soul to my addiction.Read More