To make amends may take effort and gulping down some pride, mustering some courage, and taking an action we’ve been too embarrassed or uncomfortable to take. These feelings are exactly why we should act.Read More
Guilt motivates some people to change; they feel bad about their behaviors and they want these feelings to stop, so they change, and make amends.
Shame, however, often paralyzes people. Their distorted opinion of themselves leads them to believe that no one could forgive them for their actions; they think they are so worthless and undeserving of absolution that they often do not try to make amends.