These messages can have a harmful or harmful effect on you as an adult. When you still believe these old messages, you give them power over you.Read More
By: Whitney McKendree Moore Isolated in the Group? When I finally found my way into Al-Anon, I began to see what Lily Tomlin may have meant when she said, “We’re all in this alone together.” I had grown up in functional alcoholism and had then married it, so heads were nodding as I introduced myself […]Read More
As an old spiritual says, “nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen.” I suspect though that most addicts know. My problems in life were not unique, I just had more of them than most. And, my problems were compounded from an early age.Read More
Families develop a blind eye about the elephant in the room, and pretend that something so obvious as the neglect, abuse, or dysfunction do not exist. Recovering from these issues is as important as recovering from addiction.Read More
For many addicts and alcoholics coming to terms with the puzzle of addiction – knowing they need to change and doing the complete opposite is frustrating and scary. However, the good news is that the barriers and objections are within you and that means you have the ability to change them. It’s just a matter of isolating them, examining them and then changing what doesn’t work or fit anymore.Read More
We’re all rather like the nesting dolls; we’re layered and complex. But if we look within, we will find all the qualities and answers necessary to overcome adversity, problems, and difficulties. We just have to keep looking for them.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Is Our Addiction Patiently Waiting to Bloom? “Every habit he’s ever had is still there in his body, lying dormant like flowers in the desert. Given the right conditions, all his old addictions would burst into full and luxuriant bloom. Margaret Atwood When I found the […]Read More
When we approach repeating life lessons as an opportunity to act better and improve our relationships, we appreciate “it” happening again, which gives us the opportunity to act differently.
So, just as Phil learned his lessons, in recovery, we can learn ours and act differently.Read More
“Goals are the road maps that guide you to your destination. Cultivate the habit of setting clearly-defined written goals; they are the road maps that guide you to your destination.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the HeartRead More
Ambivalence or of two minds happens when a person has both positive and negative feelings about someone or something and is struggling with deciding which option has more merit.
You’ll know you are ambivalent if you think conflicting thoughts about something, or hear yourself talking about a subject and then qualify it with a “but….”, “however…..”, or “on the other hand I think or feel……”.Read More