Families develop a blind eye about the elephant in the room, and pretend that something so obvious as the neglect, abuse, or dysfunction do not exist. Recovering from these issues is as important as recovering from addiction.Read More
For many addicts and alcoholics coming to terms with the puzzle of addiction – knowing they need to change and doing the complete opposite is frustrating and scary. However, the good news is that the barriers and objections are within you and that means you have the ability to change them. It’s just a matter of isolating them, examining them and then changing what doesn’t work or fit anymore.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Isolated Incident or a Pattern of Behaviors? ____ ___ ____ ___ When any behavior becomes the normal response or reaction to life or the typical way you respond or react to life, the behaviors become a ‘pattern of behavior’. In our active addiction, we created many patterns: ___ Manipulation to get […]Read More
We’re all rather like the nesting dolls; we’re layered and complex. But if we look within, we will find all the qualities and answers necessary to overcome adversity, problems, and difficulties. We just have to keep looking for them.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Is Our Addiction Patiently Waiting to Bloom? “Every habit he’s ever had is still there in his body, lying dormant like flowers in the desert. Given the right conditions, all his old addictions would burst into full and luxuriant bloom. Margaret Atwood When I found the […]Read More
“It’s about making a list of all the people you’ve harmed, either emotionally, physically or financially, and going back and making amends. That’s a spiritual lifestyle. It’s not a fluffy ethereal concept.” ― Anthony Kiedis, lead singer, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and author of Scar Tissue
But that’s the cycle of addiction.
Rather than be trapped in the loop of addiction, travel that road again and see what you missed on the first trip.
“Goals are the road maps that guide you to your destination. Cultivate the habit of setting clearly-defined written goals; they are the road maps that guide you to your destination.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the HeartRead More
Ambivalence or of two minds happens when a person has both positive and negative feelings about someone or something and is struggling with deciding which option has more merit.
You’ll know you are ambivalent if you think conflicting thoughts about something, or hear yourself talking about a subject and then qualify it with a “but….”, “however…..”, or “on the other hand I think or feel……”.Read More
The more I read, the more similarities that I found between three of the world’s major religions: Christianity, Hinduism, and Buddhism, with what I believe to be the fundamentals of recovery.Read More
Learning to Walk in Our Recovery
I then asked them if they would criticize a toddler who stumbled while learning to walk, or if when their children did stumble and fall, did they think, ‘Boy this kid will never walk.’
These questions usually get me some perplexed looks and the standard, “Of course not. Kids have to learn that stuff, and they’re going to fall. They just get back up.”
It’s the same for our recovery.Read More