For many addicts and alcoholics coming to terms with the puzzle of addiction – knowing they need to change and doing the complete opposite is frustrating and scary. However, the good news is that the barriers and objections are within you and that means you have the ability to change them. It’s just a matter of isolating them, examining them and then changing what doesn’t work or fit anymore.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Is Our Addiction Patiently Waiting to Bloom? “Every habit he’s ever had is still there in his body, lying dormant like flowers in the desert. Given the right conditions, all his old addictions would burst into full and luxuriant bloom. Margaret Atwood When I found the […]Read More
By: C. W. Stratton “Self-deception is the surest way to self-destruction. Reality has a way of catching up with us.”~Sam Erwin How Am I Deceiving Myself? I’m Doing So Good! Active addiction is filled with so many feelings and emotions; guilt, shame, low self-esteem, low self-worth, feelings of inadequacy and feelings of being […]Read More
“It’s about making a list of all the people you’ve harmed, either emotionally, physically or financially, and going back and making amends. That’s a spiritual lifestyle. It’s not a fluffy ethereal concept.” ― Anthony Kiedis, lead singer, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and author of Scar Tissue
But that’s the cycle of addiction.
Rather than be trapped in the loop of addiction, travel that road again and see what you missed on the first trip.
When we’re challenged with a lesson in our recovery, if we approach them from the perspective of “here’s a problem area or issue, and I’ve got an opportunity to learn from others”, it seems less harsh or traumatic.Read More
A number of self-defeating attitudes, actions, and behaviors will prevent us from being successful in our recovery. They create barriers and obstacles within us that prevent us from recovering.Read More
When we are new in recovery, it’s imperative that we find people who respect and can work with our differences. Whether this is a sponsor, accountability partner, or therapist doesn’t matter.Read More
It was at that point that I knew that change was a lifelong job; that it would create fears, uncover aspects of myself that generated and caused embarrassment, but that I would only benefit from my recovery if I went beyond not using to healing the underlying motives that produced negative outcomes in my life.Read More
Those feelings and thoughts about our life were held down rather like a jack-in-the-box – hidden away only by the mechanism of the box, or in the case of our addiction, by our use.
Take away the drugs and alcohol, and the feelings come flooding back, seemingly without rhyme or reason. However, emotional memory stores all those old feelings. They are still there.Read More