By: Dr. Noelle Sterne
I started to clarify, but she changed the subject to her impossible office job. Like a good spiritual practitioner, I accepted her choice and, while she complained, kept repeating to myself Namaste.
Later (after a little more sugar), I snuck back to the spirituality topic and asked my friend why she didn’t have time. She was much too busy, she said, with work/husband/children/life to go to church, chanting classes, retreats, or any of the other many spiritual activities she saw in the back of her neighborhood paper.
Do You Have Time to Be Spiritual?
How many of us feel the same way? We have all the greatest intentions to meditate every morning for 20, 15, even 5 minutes. What happens? We oversleep, just manage to corral the kids to breakfast and out the door, so they won’t be late for school, throw last night’s laundry from washer to dryer, pull on passable office clothes, and rush out ourselves to work, remembering keys, glasses, phone, laptop, briefcase, shoes.
The Virtues of Rituals
How do we get—or make—time for spirituality? Granted, it’s a choice, and conscious rituals can help. A personal trainer I knew devoted a small corner in his dining room to meditation, complete with low alter, candles, photos of mandalas on the walls, and two mats. A real estate agent goes out to the seashore early every morning, sits on a bench, and meditates before she opens her office. A neighbor, the mother of three small children, signed up for a weekly class in mindfulness. It How do we get—or make—time for spirituality? Granted, it’s a choice, and conscious rituals can help. A personal trainer I knew devoted a small corner in his dining room to meditation, complete was the only way, she said, she could focus inside rather than stopping fights, soothing scrapes, and opening endless juice boxes.
Are such rituals the only way? Are they our admission tickets to spirituality, heaven, or enlightenment?
Not at all.
Instead . . .
The Anglican mystic Evelyn Underhill (1875-1941) tells us:
The spiritual life does not begin in an arrogant attempt at some peculiar kind of other-worldliness, a rejection of ordinary experience. It begins in the humble recognition that human things can be very holy, full of God; whereas high-minded speculations about His nature need not be holy at all. (Lent With Evelyn Underhill, 2nd edition, 2004, London and New York, Continuum, p. 40)
In a similar vein, Joel Goldsmith, the brilliant mid-twentieth-century metaphysical teacher, and author says we needn’t expect any greater transformative experiences in “holy mountains or in temples than we would find if we were praying in our garden or at home or in our living room . . . . [We can] pray wherever we are—in the home, on the street, in the air, under the water, in church or out” (The Thunder of Silence, New York, Harper & Row, 1993, p. 142).
Yet he quotes Rabbi Jamie S. Korngold (God in the Wilderness, New York, Three Rivers Press, 2008), who acknowledges the uplifting inspirations of nature but acknowledges, “You can have a similar awe experience watching rain on a city windowsill” (p. 108).
The mainstream too has gotten it! In a Woman’s Day article, “Meditate Anywhere,” Abigail L. Cuffey suggests how a busy mother can meditate: in the shower, washing dishes, waiting to pick up the kids, just before a meal (October 22, 2010, http://www.womansday.com/health-fitness/stress-management/meditate-anywhere-112325 ).
Start with One of These…
Mother or other, if you’re still too frazzled with daily duties, Zen master Laurence Do’an Grecco suggests more excuse-proof and outrageous opportunities to meditate. His “Seven Ways To Meditate Anytime, Anywhere (Even If You’re The Busiest Person On Earth)” lists them:
• Smartphone Practice: Set your phone alarm several times during the day and pause, even for a few seconds, to become aware of your breath.
• The Lay-Away Method: Again, stop a very few times a day, even for a single minute, and focus on one thing.
• Post-It Practice: Stick up post-its or other striking visuals in different places. When one catches your eye, pause for a few seconds to connect with yourself.
• Pissing Practice: Self-explanatory. At least you’re alone (choose a stall).
• Street-Walker Meditation: Not that one, but when you’re walking, feel what it’s like to walk. Be wholly there, whenever and wherever you’re walking.
• Eating Meditation: While you’re chewing, don’t read, text, repeat lists in your head, or stare at the television or people at the other tables. Just concentrate on the food in front of you, each taste and texture.
• Keyboard Practice: When you’re texting, typing, or punching numbers into an ATM, center your attention on the sensations of your fingertips.
What We Need
Whatever methods appeal to you, in a flowery meadow or the middle of the mall, near a waterfall or in a water closet, the messages all encourage us.We don’t need to go anywhere or perform special rituals to be “spiritual” or engage in that mysterious thing called meditation. Click To Tweet
Grecco says, “It’s simply about being fully aware of what your mind is doing . . . , and this is something you can do at any given moment. “ We only need to be where we are.
Want to Start?
So, wherever you are, stand, sit, or lie down. Close your eyes or open them. Be dirty or clean, dressed or undressed, having accomplished something or done nothing. Be alone or in a crowd.
- Thirty seconds standing anywhere.
- One minute sitting anywhere.
- Three minutes lying down anywhere.
- Four minutes walking anywhere.
- Watch your breath or repeat a word you like.
- That’s all you need.
I sent my harried friend a draft of this piece. She phoned the next day. In a quiet voice, she said, “Thank you; I needed this. I had all the wrong ideas about spirituality.”
I almost cried.
Then she said, “Gotta hang up. While the kids watch their cartoons, I’m going out to the garage to meditate.”
Academic mentor, editor and coach, with the Ph.D. from Columbia University, she helps doctoral students wrestling with their dissertations and publishes articles in several blogs for dissertation writers. Noelle has delivered requested presentations on academic writing at several universities and is a regular contributor to Abstract, the blog of the Textbook and Academic Authors Association (TAA). She also contributes pieces to other national and international publications, on dissertation issues and writing. In July and August 2018 she was one of six webinar presenters for its “Writing Gym.” Her topic: “Get Started, Continue Your Draft, and Finish!”__
Eons ago, she published a children’s book of original (groanworthy) dinosaur riddles, Tyrannosaurus Wrecks (What do you get when dinosaurs crash their cars?). Riddles from the book appear in several elementary school language arts texts, and the book wasfeatured on PBS’s Reading Rainbow._
A Chicken Soup for the Soul podcast (May 16, 2017) featured her story “Time to Say Goodbye” from a 2013 volume: https://chickensoup.podbean.com/e/tip-tuesday-why-you-should-remove-toxic-people-from-your-life-and-how-to-do-it/_
Noelle’s book Trust Your Life: Forgive Yourself and Go After Your Dreams (Unity Books, 2011) contains examples from her practice, writing, and other aspects of life to help readers release regrets, relabel their past, and reach lifelong yearnings.
Her book Challenges in Writing Your Dissertation: Coping With the Emotional, Interpersonal, and SpiritualStruggles (Rowman & Littlefield Education, 2015) further aids doctoral candidates to award of their degrees.–
As part of pursuing her writing Dream, Noelle’s mission is to help other writers reach theirs and create the lives they truly desire. Taking her own advice (hard as it may be), she is completing her first novel.
Writing, and recovery heals the heart.