“I’m bored is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless; it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say, ‘I’m bored. ” ― Louis C.K.
I should logically be able to state, without reservation, which of those five feelings was hurt. However, the reality is that no one can define which of the five feeling categories was hurt, because feelings by themselves cannot be hurt. It’s our egos that get bruised.Read More
And so it is. I will go through the grief process, but I will take consolation in the hearth fire of others, and know that there will be a new day, a tomorrow. Each of us has a way of reaching out and touching another through our words, a gentle reminder of worth, or encouragement when things are difficult.Read More
“Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked, and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb.”Read More
You realize that you aren’t denying that a problem exists and you’re willing to make changes to correct it. These differences might be an action, changing a negative attitude, or you may change your feelings and thoughts about a situation.
But continuing to just ponder the problem, leads to frustration, tension and guilt. In the case of addiction, not changing can and does lead to harsher outcomes.
We have all manipulated people. But most of us have a preferred method of manipulation. When you learn to spot yours, then you can decide if your manipulation comes at too great a cost and change the behaviors.Read More
“It was not the feeling of completeness I so needed, but the feeling of not being empty.” ― Jonathan Safran Foer, Everything Is IlluminatedRead More
In one of my first lectures in treatment, I kept hearing about the spiritual principles that I needed to incorporate into my recovery. For the principles listing on the sign-up sheet, I falsely assumed that I’d go to a dimly lit room, with incense wafting and cloistered monks reading from musty, dusty tomes. I hoped that they would enlighten me and give me ancient wisdom on how to change.
Instead, I learned from recovering people like myself in recovery support meetings.Read More
Note from Marilyn L. Davis: While this is a slight departure from many of the blogs on addiction and recovery, it is an excellent reminder of the power of words. When you share your recovery, know that what you say, how you say something, and when you say it might be the difference in healing […]Read More
By: Rev. Dr. Kevin T. Coughlin PhD. “It is said that no one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails. A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but its lowest ones.” ~Nelson Mandela Is Addiction a Crime? Since the eighties, the judicial system hasn’t changed their […]Read More
For many of us, admitting that there is a substance abuse problem or addiction creates fear, shame, and embarrassment. As a result, the only way we can come to terms with it is to avoid it. Avoiding the truth of the problem relies on denying that there is a problem, rationalizing or justifying.Read More
“I think that the best kind of change, is the change that comes from the inside and begins its way out until it emerges on the outside; a change that is born underneath then continues and spreads until it has reached the surface.
That’s a true change. A powerful change. And I have found that while we are emerging, changing into something glorious; it is actually us becoming who we really are.― C. JoyBell C.Read More