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Untangling the Mess: Finding the Triggers

By: Marilyn L. Davis Here It Comes Again: Anniversary Issues in Recovery  ___ “I feel lost and confused, but happy and certain. I am like a ball of tangled yarn. The parts that are untangled are available, useable; the rest is a mess, useless until it is untied. That mess feels endless and at most times unyielding.” […]

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Denying, Distorting, and Doing Something Different

How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.

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Hitting Bottom: High Ones, Low Ones, and Choosing One

That’s right, you can choose this as the lowest moment where you are no longer willing to sacrifice all to get and remain high. You can choose to make this the day that you stop disappointing yourself and others.  You can decide that you won’t go any further down to satisfy your addiction.  It is a time when you stand up for yourself, and make the decision to make life changes. 

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Guilt: Developing Emotional Balance in Your Recovery

Guilt motivates some people to change; they feel bad about their behaviors and they want these feelings to stop, so they change.
 
Shame, however, often paralyzes people. Their distorted opinion of themselves leads them to believe that no one could forgive them for their actions; they think they are so worthless and undeserving of absolution that they often do not try to make amends.

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Negative Emotions are Bundles of Fear

By: Marilyn L. Davis “Fear’s useless. Either something bad happens or it doesn’t: If it doesn’t, you’ve wasted time being afraid, and if it does, you’ve wasted time that you could have spent sharpening your weapons.” ― Sarah Rees Brennan, The Demon’s Lexicon Fearful Emotions are Predictable and also Spontaneous   Emotions can be a […]