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If They Love You Now, Why Change?

If you think about this logically, anyone that “falls in love” with you early in your recovery is getting involved with a person that you are trying to change. Therefore, you would have to stay the same to sustain the relationship, and that would be the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish in yo

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More Afraid of Staying the Same or Changing?

For most of us, we’re afraid when we think about changing the patterns of our lives, whether it’s giving up drugs or alcohol, or changing the way we think, feel, and act. After all, we have done or been something for so long that those actions, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are mechanical or habituated. These predictable actions are the norm, and when we leave the comfort zone, we get anxious.

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from addict 2 advocate future change marilyn l davis

Stop Repeating the Past: Recovery Can Change the Future

“Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could travel into the future, see where you messed up, and then go back in time to rearrange things to make your future better? You can. If you can foresee regret, you can mind travel to the future. If you can train yourself to mind travel effectively, you can intentionally affect your future by doing something about it today.”~Richie Norton

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Secrets and Shame

They only will have a chance to make it if they do the footwork.  If I keep secrets that leads to shame and shame feeds the addiction.  I found out that I don’t always need an umbrella and a lifejacket, and I can try new things and new ways.  Not everyone in this World was put here to make my life miserable; there are good, kind people here.  I’m not so bad as long as I’m sober!

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from addict 2 advocate marilyn l davis

Do I Have to Work on my Recovery, Today?

The success of your recovery depends on maintaining vigilance or awareness. You’ve worked hard to give up drugs and alcohol; that’s the getting into recovery. Unfortunately, some people get complacent or self-satisfied when they have accomplished a part of the whole. It’s rather like someone saying they want to eat some cake for dessert and then stopping with only the eggs and flour in the bowl, but saying, “Look, I’m making a cake. I think I’ll take a break.”

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Recovery is Removing the Masks

Addiction forces us to wear a false image. We smile, when every fiber of our being is screaming in pain. We posture as friendly, when all we want to do is get our dope and leave. We pretend that we have it all together when we take our children to school or football. We show fake emotions because we are so embarrassed and frightened by our authentic ones. 

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from addict 2 advocate marilyn l davis transforming distorting

Addiction is Distorting, Recovery is Transforming

How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.

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from addict 2 advocate marilyn l davis

Negative Emotions are Bundles of Fear

By: Marilyn L. Davis “Fear’s useless. Either something bad happens, or it doesn’t: If it doesn’t, you’ve wasted time being afraid, and if it does, you’ve wasted time that you could have spent sharpening your weapons.” ― Sarah Rees Brennan, The Demon’s Lexicon   Fearful Emotions are Predictable and Spontaneous Fear is often a reaction […]

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