from addict 2 advocate

Addiction is Wearing the Masks: Recovery is Removing Them

Addiction forces us to wear a false image. We smile, when every fiber of our being is screaming in pain. We posture as friendly, when all we want to do is get our dope and leave. We pretend that we have it all together when we take our children to school or football. We show fake emotions because we are so embarrassed and frightened by our authentic ones. 

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Denying, Distorting, and Doing Something Different

How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.

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from addict 2 advocate

Hitting Bottom: High Ones, Low Ones, and Choosing One

Many people have tried to recover and hit yet another lower bottom because they keep trying unsuccessful methods.  If this has happened to you, then this bottom can be the last if you do things differently.
 
I’ve always thought that the quote from Israelmore Ayivor speaks to all the ways we’ve tried to overcome our addiction on our own, and haven’t been successful. “You need to GIVE UP on methods that always give you wrong results… No matter how committed you are with a wrong formula, it always gives a wrong answer. Give up!” 

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from addict 2 advocate

Dealing with Guilt in Your Recovery

Guilt motivates some people to change; they feel bad about their behaviors and they want these feelings to stop, so they change, and make amends.
 
Shame, however, often paralyzes people. Their distorted opinion of themselves leads them to believe that no one could forgive them for their actions; they think they are so worthless and undeserving of absolution that they often do not try to make amends.

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from addict 2 advocate marilyn l davis

Negative Emotions are Bundles of Fear

  By: Marilyn L. Davis “Fear’s useless. Either something bad happens or it doesn’t: If it doesn’t, you’ve wasted time being afraid, and if it does, you’ve wasted time that you could have spent sharpening your weapons.” ― Sarah Rees Brennan, The Demon’s Lexicon   Fearful Emotions are Predictable and Spontaneous Emotions are a reaction […]

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