I could not dissipate those feelings and was alone in my armor with them. It was an insidious trap. However, most of us who are semi-delusional from our use, do not understand that while we think we’re protecting ourselves, we are also preventing ourselves from receiving help.Read More
Children growing up with an alcoholic or addicted parent experience increased stress. They live in the shadows, never taking center stage; their parent’s addiction comes first.Read More
I do not take lightly when the Universe demonstrates a lesson for me, and at that moment, I saw how tenacious that tulip sprout was. That longing, if you will, to grow, to fight for survival and thrive. To blossom and show itself in all its splendor and beauty.Read More
How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.Read More
Many people have tried to recover and hit yet another lower bottom because they keep trying unsuccessful methods. If this has happened to you, then this bottom can be the last if you do things differently.
I’ve always thought that the quote from Israelmore Ayivor speaks to all the ways we’ve tried to overcome our addiction on our own, and haven’t been successful. “You need to GIVE UP on methods that always give you wrong results… No matter how committed you are with a wrong formula, it always gives a wrong answer. Give up!”
Guilt motivates some people to change; they feel bad about their behaviors and they want these feelings to stop, so they change, and make amends.
Shame, however, often paralyzes people. Their distorted opinion of themselves leads them to believe that no one could forgive them for their actions; they think they are so worthless and undeserving of absolution that they often do not try to make amends.
Most of us give excuses when we do not want to do something, or someone questions us about why, when, or how we did or did not do something.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis “Fear’s useless. Either something bad happens or it doesn’t: If it doesn’t, you’ve wasted time being afraid, and if it does, you’ve wasted time that you could have spent sharpening your weapons.” ― Sarah Rees Brennan, The Demon’s Lexicon Fearful Emotions are Predictable and Spontaneous Emotions are a reaction […]Read More
An easy way to get acquainted with people in any recovery support meeting is to ask questions. You might be surprised at the answers. However, don’t just ask questions just to appear interested. Instead, use the suggestions and directions.Read More