For many addicts and alcoholics coming to terms with the puzzle of addiction – knowing they need to change and doing the complete opposite is frustrating and scary. However, the good news is that the barriers and objections are within you and that means you have the ability to change them. It’s just a matter of isolating them, examining them and then changing what doesn’t work or fit anymore.Read More
By: Martin Jim McFadden “May you have the hindsight to know where you’ve been, the foresight to know where you are going, and the insight to know when you have gone too far.” ― Irish Blessing I was born in 1963, the youngest of five children. During that era in Co Donegal, Ireland, […]Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Isolated Incident or a Pattern of Behaviors? ____ ___ ____ ___ When any behavior becomes the normal response or reaction to life or the typical way you respond or react to life, the behaviors become a ‘pattern of behavior’. In our active addiction, we created many patterns: ___ Manipulation to get […]Read More
We’re all rather like the nesting dolls; we’re layered and complex. But if we look within, we will find all the qualities and answers necessary to overcome adversity, problems, and difficulties. We just have to keep looking for them.Read More
By: Marilyn L. Davis Is Our Addiction Patiently Waiting to Bloom? “Every habit he’s ever had is still there in his body, lying dormant like flowers in the desert. Given the right conditions, all his old addictions would burst into full and luxuriant bloom. Margaret Atwood When I found the […]Read More
The psychiatrist and Course in Miracles teacher Jerry Jampolsky in Goodbye to Guilt calls forgiveness “the ultimate challenge” (p. 149). We cling to hurts, slights, insults, betrayals, wrongs, anger, resentments, annoyances—and on and on, through months, years, decades, and, before we blink, a lifetime.Read More
By: C. W. Stratton “Self-deception is the surest way to self-destruction. Reality has a way of catching up with us.”~Sam Erwin How Am I Deceiving Myself? I’m Doing So Good! Active addiction is filled with so many feelings and emotions; guilt, shame, low self-esteem, low self-worth, feelings of inadequacy and feelings of being […]Read More
When we approach repeating life lessons as an opportunity to act better and improve our relationships, we appreciate “it” happening again, which gives us the opportunity to act differently.
So, just as Phil learned his lessons, in recovery, we can learn ours and act differently.Read More
As a person in long-term recovery, I made many resolutions to stop drinking and using drugs, most of which were while I was high, couldn’t pay a bill, or I had a hangover. That resolution lasted as long as I felt bad, or about 24 hours.Read More
“It’s about making a list of all the people you’ve harmed, either emotionally, physically or financially, and going back and making amends. That’s a spiritual lifestyle. It’s not a fluffy ethereal concept.” ― Anthony Kiedis, lead singer, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and author of Scar Tissue
But that’s the cycle of addiction.
Rather than be trapped in the loop of addiction, travel that road again and see what you missed on the first trip.
“Goals are the road maps that guide you to your destination. Cultivate the habit of setting clearly-defined written goals; they are the road maps that guide you to your destination.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the HeartRead More