By: Marilyn L. Davis
Author, Robert L. Hobbs, writes candidly about the struggles that each parent faces when their child is an addict. This is a memoir and manual for any parent, friend, or family member that is struggling for how to help.
Heroin – Living and Dying with an Addict You Love: How to Survive when Everyone Dies is Bob’s story, however, it’s the story of all of us with addicted children. What we do; what we do wrong, and sometimes, what we do right.
As the mother of two recovering addict, this passage from Bob’s book summed up too many episodes in our lives before they got into recovery. “I didn’t wake up Sunday morning, so much as I got out of bed. It was hard to find enough peace to fall asleep when the pain and prison were so prevalent in my thoughts. Maybe it was an illegal search; maybe it was the other kid’s drugs; he was driving and did get a driving unit his influence (DUI); maybe they didn’t read him his rights – all that television drama stuff was pouring out.
I was looking for a loophole. The “not my kid” loophole, or the “this doesn’t happen to guys like me” loophole, or the “I don’t deserve this bullshit” loophole.”
While I had been in recovery for about seven years, I was not able to help my child. Seeing my daughter hung over and only in Georgia for my mother’s funeral, seemed too much to fathom. Bob captures the surreal, movie-like qualities that we all experience as we come to terms with the fact that our children are addicted.
Bob also dons another hat, and educates the readers about heroin, relapses, jail visits, rehab, and forgiveness.
This personal account, and the resources Bob shares, will help any parent who can’t quite understand how their child got addicted, how, why “what they did or didn’t do as a parent is or isn’t a reason”, and why healing and recovery are family affairs.
“Bob tells a painful, riveting story of his life, fighting his son’s addiction in his insightful book on heroin addiction and the painful effect on the family. Many addicts die from addiction and many more, experience repeated relapses.I implore anyone with an addict in your family to read this book for the knowledge and education about addiction within the family and the struggles experienced by the addict to get clean. This book may save lives.” –Walter Brooks, PhD, LPC, MAC, NCAC-II, CCS, SAP, Tangu Program Director
Here are the sites that offer Bob’s Book