Those character defects we used with complete abandon in our addiction, well, we can cut them out or at least not use them anymore. Those admirable qualities that we didn’t use much in our addiction, now command more attention, so we use them.

The concept of altering or modifying something is just another blessing of recovery. It's the freedom of choice, something that was lacking in our addiction. Click To Tweet

Altering Just One Aspect Makes a Difference
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This ability to choose allows us to change our old behaviors, attitudes, and actions and begin the process of inner recovery. When I think about all the character defects and negative aspects I operated from in my addiction I’m surprised that anyone had anything to do with me. Self-centered in the extreme, arrogant in that I would not listen to the caring advice of family and friends, I justified all of my actions.

Then if I didn’t get the outcomes I wanted from manipulation, I blamed others for my lot in life and felt sorry for myself.

When I entered treatment in 1988, I was not certain that I could give up drugs and alcohol and be successful in my recovery. 

A caring counselor said to me, “Can you just make some effort today and change one aspect of yourself?”

One Simple Alteration Each Day

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I decided that I could make and honor that small commitment. We discussed what one negative aspect I would work on that day. She asked me if I could focus on other people for a change. Were there people in my groups that could use some help? If I could help others, then I wouldn’t be as self-centered that day. 

I knew there were people in my group that were struggling with their written assignments, so I volunteered to read with them, and help them by writing their answers to some questions. It was a small gesture on my part, but for those who had difficulty reading and writing, I could tell that they were appreciative.

When we had a large group that first night, two people cried when they talked about me helping them. One talked about the fact that I had not belittled them because they couldn’t read and write well. I realized by helping them, I was truly helping me get out of myself. In showing some compassion, I was less self-centered.