Recovery Warriors Stick Around
I remember my dad talking about fair-weather friends; those who are with us when everything is going smoothly; we’ve got drugs, or they can get something from us. But the minute it gets complicated, or we’re out of dope, they are gone. And I’ve been betrayed, abandoned, and ditched just like the rest of you.It never feels comforting to turn around and realize that we're alone. Where are those friends? All the home boys, BFF's, and playmates are gone. Click To Tweet
Often it feels that same way in early recovery. It’s initially a time of loneliness and uncertainty when we decide to live a life of recovery. We wonder if we’ll ever experience a connection to other people. Even when we accept that our friends from our use might not have been the support we assumed they were, at least there were people in our lives.
Choosing Friends, Not Just People
Recovery means we don't have to settle for just having people in our lives. We can choose people who support our efforts at a better life. Click To Tweet
I think one of the most comforting realizations for me in my early recovery was that everyone experiences that feeling of loss when they leave behind the familiar – whether it’s drugs and alcohol, or friends. When we realize that these new people sitting in meetings are looking for and need supportive people in their lives, too, we can quit feeling sorry for ourselves and reach out. Go for coffee, come early to a meeting, or share that we’re looking for guidance or support.
A simple gesture, a nod of recognition when they share, or an invitation to have coffee helped me reach out and find people who were not just fair-weather friends but were willing to stick by me through the good times and the bad. I learned to call them recovery warriors, because they, like me, were fighting a formidable foe – addiction.
Sharing Lightens the Load and Lifts You Up
When I changed my focus to who I could help, instead of focusing on the loss, I felt a sense of peace and gratitude for not giving into to the lonely feelings and returning to the world of fair-weather friends through a relapse.
Recovery Warriors are Everywhere; Find ThemSo, today, appreciate the people who are there for you; thick or thin, up or down, for better or for worse, got your back, fair or inclement weather. Click To Tweet
While those words may seem cliché and worn, they aptly describe those who lift you up. Value them and in turn, be the same kind of person for them.
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