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Recovery: Why Quibble Over the Words?

By: Marilyn L. Davis

“A chrysanthemum by any other name would be a lot easier to spell.” ― Robert C. Savage

 

What is the Purpose of Words? 

 

 

I was updating my Glossary of Recovery Terms earlier today for a presentation next week. It is part of my recovery curriculum that I wrote, starting in 1990, and I used several old dictionaries when I wrote it. I got distracted and thought about why I wrote the Glossary.

It was to teach each participant about character defects and positive aspects, codependency traits, and spiritual concepts.

Therefore, a good beginning for finding character defects and negative aspects at that time were the Seven Deadly Sins. From a musty tome in the Brenau University Library, I discovered that it was Pope Gregory, who revised this list in 590 AD to form the more common Seven Deadly Sins:

• Wrath: Anger, Rage, Fury
• Greed: Hunger, Self-indulgence, Covetousness
• Sloth: Laziness, Indolence, Apathy
• Pride: Smugness, Self-importance, Self-Gratification
• Lust: Yearning, Thirst, Desire
• Envy: Jealousy, Begrudging
• Gluttony: Excess

I know that in my addiction, I operated from all of these deadly sins. Did you?

 

Sinning: Missing the Mark

 

All of those represented sins, and in my world, they are also relapse warning signs. The word sin seems fraught with visions of hell-fire and brimstone, and I do not hear it used much, whereas I do know about referencing character defects, negative aspects, and self-defeating behaviors.

All of those represented sins, and in my world, they are also relapse warning signs. Since learning about relapse warning signs would help me, I questioned the origins of ‘sin.’

 

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The word sin derives from Old English synn (noun), syngian (verb); probably related to Latin sons, sont- ‘guilty.’ The Biblical terms, translated from Greek and Hebrew literally refer to missing a target or an error and not accomplishing a goal.

All of those categories highlight how we act from selfish and self-gratifying motives. That seems like an apt definition of sin or missing the mark as a human being.

 

Important Resources about Religion and Recovery

 

The Internet has opened up an extraordinary wealth of wisdom for all of us. We can Google and Bing daily to find inspiration, advice, counsel, information, or definitions.

Today I also read an article about Hinduism that gave me pause. It has been many years since I studied religions, and yet, I knew that there were often times more similarities than the behaviors of warring religions would have us believe.

Unfortunately, I could not pronounce all of the unusual, comparable, and equivalent words I found today; nonetheless, each reinforced for me that recovery from within is the correct way.

 

Six Passions

 

In Hindu theology, arishadvarga — the six passions of mind are: 

  • Kama (Lust)
  • Krodha (Anger) 
  • Lobha (Greed) 
  • Moha (Delusion) 
  • Mada (Pride) 
  • Matsarya (Jealousy)

Each of these aspects or negative characteristics prevent the man from realizing the atman, the reality of his True Being or moksha: salvation.

Don’t all of those characteristics also prevent us from recovering as well?

 

Prophecy, News Flash, or Recovery Story?

 

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According to Hindu beliefs, we are living in the age or epoch of Kali Yuga or time of impurities and vices. Many Hindus believe that human civilizations deteriorate spiritually during the Kali Yuga.

Our primary focus is on physical pleasures and the pursuit of material possessions. This does not just happen in a period of Kali Yuga, but in our active addiction as well.

We lose touch with our best qualities and essential positive traits. The following Prophesied events during a Kali Yuga reads like a news flash for today or anyone sharing about their life in addiction. Concerning human relationships during a Kali Yuga, Markandeya’s discourse says:

  1. Avarice and wrath will be common.
  2. Humans will openly display animosity towards each other.
  3. Ignorance of Dharma will occur.
  4. People will have thoughts of murder with no justification and will see nothing wrong with that.
  5. Sin will increase exponentially, while virtue will fade and cease to flourish.
  6. People will take vows and break them soon after.
  7. People will become addicted to intoxicating drinks and drugs. Hmm.

Each of these describes most addicts, including myself, in our active addiction.

 

Buddhism and Defects of Character

 

Kleshas, in Buddhism, are mental states that cloud the mind and manifest in unwholesome actions. Kleshas include states of consciousness such as anxiety, fear, anger, jealousy, desire, depression, etc.

Contemporary translators use a variety of English words to translate the term kleshas, such as afflictions, defilements, destructive emotions, disturbing emotions, negative emotions, mind poisons, etc.

Abhidhamma: Ten defilements and unwholesome roots:

• Greed: (Lobha)
• Hate: (Dosa)
• Delusion: (Moha)
• Conceit: (Māna)
• Wrong Views: (Micchādiṭṭhi)
• Doubt: (Vicikicchā)
• Torpor: (Thīnaṃ)
• Restlessness: (Uddhaccaṃ)
• Shamelessness: (Ahirikaṃ)
• Recklessness: (Anottappaṃ)

So, we’re back to what fuels our addictions from a Buddhist perspective, but it could be a conversation in the rooms as well.

 

Christianity, Hinduism, Buddhism, and Recovery: Similarities or the 98%

 


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“And religion–whether you believe in God or Yahweh or Allah or something else, odds are that at heart you want the same things. For whatever reason, we like to focus on the 2 percent, that’s different, and most of the conflict in the world comes from that.” — David Levithan (Every Day (Every Day, #1))

 

The more I read, the more similarities that I found between three of the world's major religions: Christianity, Hinduism, and Buddhism, with what I believe to be the fundamentals of recovery. Click To Tweet

All of these reinforce the essential responsibility to change what is wrong within us and to stop those thoughts, actions, and behaviors that are harmful to us and to others.

“Shutting out all external objects, fixing the vision between the eyebrows, making even the inward and outward breaths, the sage who has controlled the senses, mind, and understanding, who is intent upon liberation, who has cast away desire, fear, and anger, he is ever freed.” ― The Bhagavad Gita

His Holiness, the Dalai Lama, has said that there are three reasons for believing that the destructive emotions can be eliminated from our minds:

1. All the destructive emotions and mental states are fundamentally distorted, whereas the antidotes, such as love, compassion, and insight, are undistorted and based on how things really are.
2. The antidotes have the quality of being strengthened through training and practice.
3. The essential nature of the mind is pure and undefiled by destructive emotions.

 

Enriching My Day

 

“By practicing the virtues, we cultivate the soil from which healthy emotions sprout; by letting go of our character defects, we drain the swamp in which diseased emotions breed. ― Ray A

In summarizing the information from various sites, religions, and beliefs, I sincerely hope that I have stayed true to the intent of the particular message, text, or philosophy; that was my intent.

In no way do I consider myself anything other than a novice learner about Hinduism or Buddhism. Also, on any given day, if I am operating from character defects, I am a novice in recovery as well.

I also hope that the message of this entire article is that each teaching has value and worth. Dismissing information due to pronunciation difficulties is foolish and short-sighted. After all, it is not 1990, I can use online sources to learn both old and new terms and concepts to gain understanding, awareness, and recovery.

 

Writing, and recovery heals the heart.

 

 

When you’re ready to share your experiences in addiction and recovery, I hope you’ll consider submitting a guest post. The more tones, styles, and voices that write about recovery, the more people struggling with their addictions can get help.

 

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3 thoughts on “Recovery: Why Quibble Over the Words?

  1. Yes. indeed, and I do see that. The “catch” for me is will power: that it just doesn’t work! What I didn’t realize,
    though, was how many forms of Higher Power there are (and they are not all lovely and nice). Only one is the
    gift Christ imparts to human hearts. I am not trying to persuade or evangelize here — truly. Your post helps me
    understand why I felt so compelled to find a 12-step meeting of Celebrate Recovery. I found one, and felt
    instantly at home because of exactly this. Thanks for sharing xoxoxoxo

    1. You are correct, Whitney, that is that significant difference, however, I wanted to shed light on the similarities with respect to the underlying issues that drive our addictions, make our lives unmanageable, and prevent us from leading a productive life.

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