Stuck in Old Thinking?
“If we stay where we are, where we’re stuck, where we’re comfortable and safe, we die there. We become like mushrooms, living in the dark, with poop up to our chins. If you want to know only what you already know, you’re dying. You’re saying: Leave me alone; I don’t mind this little rat hole. It’s warm and dry. Really, it’s fine.
When nothing new can get in, that’s death. When oxygen can’t find a way in, you die. But new is scary, and new can be disappointing, and confusing – we had this all figured out, and now we don’t.
New is life.” ― Anne Lamott,
- Johnny Red
- Whatever we call the newest drug
Stuck in Old Behaviors?
Consider this the situations and experiences where you interact with others; family, friends, work, school, organizations, religious affiliations, and self-help meetings would be the most common places that you actively interact with other people.
However, your social world extends to your interactions with others, even if indirectly, such as driving and sharing a road, shopping, or any other social activity that would have others present even if you do not talk to them.
Most of us remained isolated in our use, whether we used by ourselves or with others. We lived in our heads. When we interacted with people, we usually just tried to manipulate them into giving us something. We got in and got out quickly at family gatherings. We didn’t know how to relate to others.
Early Recovery: Social Issues
There are five general categories of feelings: Mad, Sad, Glad, Bad, and Scared. Degrees of feelings would fit into these broad categories.
Our emotions in early recovery seem to surface without rhyme or reason. But if you think of them as being numbed or suppressed with your use, when you take away drugs and alcohol, they will surface, sometimes at inappropriate times.
Anger builds up; it festers from frustration, irritation and annoyance. Learn to deal with the lesser degrees of anger so you don’t explode on people.
Early Recovery: Mental Issues
This aspect deals with the sensory system: sight, touch, hearing, tasting, and smelling. In our use, we rarely took care of our bodies. Dental concerns and basic health checkups are imperative in our recovery.
Early Recovery: Physical Issues
If you are experiencing withdrawal, then you may need to detox. There are also some drugs that run the risk of Post Acute Withdrawal, often months after you’ve discontinued using. Many people also feel tired because they are not sleeping well.
This usually corrects itself after a few weeks. Vitamins, mineral supplements, and eating a healthy diet can also help an individual feel better in early recovery. However, if you’re going to take any supplements, be sure that they are safe for addicts.
Accidents, or chronic conditions, where there is pain need to be treated by a physician that knows your history of substance abuse. There are medications that will not lead you back to relapse. You’ve worked too hard for your recovery to let even a painful sprained ankle to take you back out.
The use of the term “spirituality” has changed throughout the ages. In modern times spirituality is often separated from religion and connotes a blend of humanistic psychology often with mystical and esoteric traditions for personal well-being and personal development.
Many people think of this as their moral compass or socially and ethically correct or incorrect thoughts, behaviors and actions.
Early Recovery: Spiritual Issues
If you attend meetings where a Higher Power is encouraged, you may not think that you need one or are having trouble identifying one. One thing that helped me was to think of “god”, with a little ‘g’. That stood for good, orderly, direction. Another name for it was, ‘group, of, drunks’. I could rely on that group of drunks to give me good orderly direction.
Regardless of what you decide about your spiritual life, if you add the 17 Spiritual Principles into your attitudes and behaviors, I guarantee that you’ll get better outcomes.
Someone Has the Answers
The benefit of recovery support meetings is that someone else was stuck, and got out of it. Ask them what they did to solve their problem.
Most, if not all will be willing to share their experiences with you. So, no more excuses for being stuck, are there?
Writing, and recovery heals the heart
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