It is when we cannot see that changes are going to make our life better or that we will feel better because of the modification, we often balk, resist, or create obstacles to change. We give into fears, discuss how difficult it is to change, and create excuses so we don’t have to change.
Children growing up with an alcoholic or addicted parent experience increased stress. They live in the shadows, never taking center stage; their parent’s addiction comes first.
At that moment, I truly valued and appreciate this job. It wasn’t prestigious, glamorous, or a job that anyone would covet, but it was my job. And it was a job that let me leave the campus at 10:30 every day, eat a quick mid-morning snack, and make a noon recovery support meeting.
So, if there’s all these doors to success, why do we miss so many opportunities? Missed Opportunities are the times we fail to capitalize on the activity, occasion, situation or circumstances that would better our lives or ourselves. Each of us has missed opportunities or not taken advantage of an opportunity often due to self-defeating behaviors, including our fears.
Affirmations have to resonate, vibrate, or echo your desire. If not, there is a block created, as it is unbelievable.
For instance, I could create one stating: I am perfect, just as I am now! Even as I write it, I know it is untrue, therefore, no matter how many times I wrote it, I would not internalize this as a valid affirmation.
“I’m bored is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless; it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say, ‘I’m bored. ” ― Louis C.K.
“I think that the best kind of change, is the change that comes from the inside and begins its way out until it emerges on the outside; a change that is born underneath then continues and spreads until it has reached the surface.
That’s a true change. A powerful change. And I have found that while we are emerging, changing into something glorious; it is actually us becoming who we really are.― C. JoyBell C.
For many of us, admitting that there is a substance abuse problem or addiction creates fear, shame, and embarrassment. As a result, the only way we can come to terms with it is to avoid it. Avoiding the truth of the problem relies on denying that there is a problem, rationalizing or justifying.
By: Marilyn L. Davis “Accept that the addiction exists not because of yourself, but in spite of yourself. You did not come into life asking to be programmed this way. It’s not personal to you—millions of others with similar experiences have developed the same mechanisms. What is personal to you is how you […]
By: Marilyn L. Davis “Be wise enough not to be reckless, but brave enough to take great risks.” ― Frank Warre Who and What to Avoid Counselors, therapists, and supportive friends, all caution about avoiding people, places, and situations that prompt us to think about using. While these external triggers are powerful, […]
That’s the thing about reacting. Often it’s when we don’t feel in control of a situation, or we have predicted the outcome before it happens. But I had to find a solution, or I’d explode on someone else, or implode and feel crappy.
When people have clarity, there is no question that using drugs and alcohol are self-defeating. However, when we are in the grips of our addiction, we do not see reality. Many of us require a caring intervention by others to understand just how much harm we have inflicted, the damage to our relationships, and to know that there are still people willing to help.
If you think about this logically, anyone that “falls in love” with you early in your recovery is getting involved with a person that you are trying to change. Therefore, you would have to stay the same to sustain the relationship, and that would be the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish in yo
For most of us, we’re afraid when we think about changing the patterns of our lives, whether it’s giving up drugs or alcohol, or changing the way we think, feel, and act. After all, we have done or been something for so long that those actions, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are mechanical or habituated. These predictable actions are the norm, and when we leave the comfort zone, we get anxious.
