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Red Flag Warnings Leading to Relapse

  By: Marilyn L. Davis   “Accept that the addiction exists not because of yourself, but in spite of yourself. You did not come into life asking to be programmed this way. It’s not personal to you—millions of others with similar experiences have developed the same mechanisms.  What is personal to you is how you […]

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Relapse Thinking: 8 Risky Attitudes

  By: Marilyn L. Davis   “Be wise enough not to be reckless, but brave enough to take great risks.” ―  Frank Warre   Who and What to Avoid   Counselors, therapists, and supportive friends, all caution about avoiding people, places, and situations that prompt us to think about using. While these external triggers are powerful, […]

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Because We Cannot See: When Addicts Need an Intervention

When people have clarity, there is no question that using drugs and alcohol are self-defeating. However, when we are in the grips of our addiction, we do not see reality. Many of us require a caring intervention by others to understand just how much harm we have inflicted, the damage to our relationships, and to know that there are still people willing to help.

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More Afraid of Staying the Same or Changing?

For most of us, we’re afraid when we think about changing the patterns of our lives, whether it’s giving up drugs or alcohol, or changing the way we think, feel, and act. After all, we have done or been something for so long that those actions, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are mechanical or habituated. These predictable actions are the norm, and when we leave the comfort zone, we get anxious.

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Recovery Isn’t a Monarchy: There are No Kings or Queens

By: Marilyn L. Davis   Are You Behaving Like a King or Queen in Early Recovery?    “Little by little, the old world crumbled, and not once did the king imagine that some of the pieces might fall on him.” ― Jennifer Donnelly, Revolution           Many addicts and alcoholics create the false belief […]

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Negative Emotions are Bundles of Fear

Start your day by isolating your negative emotions and the fears beneath them. Next, create a calming statement and test how you feel about the situation after you write your calming statement. Do this for 30 days and see if you don’t see a difference in how you regulate your fears. Here are some examples to get you started.

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Sedated Secrets: Waking up to the Nightmare of Sexual Abuse

“Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked, and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb.”

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Return Journey – Making Amends on the Spiritual Road

“It’s about making a list of all the people you’ve harmed, either emotionally, physically or financially, and going back and making amends. That’s a spiritual lifestyle. It’s not a fluffy ethereal concept.” ― Anthony Kiedis, lead singer, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and author of Scar Tissue
But that’s the cycle of addiction. 
 
Rather than be trapped in the loop of addiction, travel that road again and see what you missed on the first trip.

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