“Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked, and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb.”
“It’s about making a list of all the people you’ve harmed, either emotionally, physically or financially, and going back and making amends. That’s a spiritual lifestyle. It’s not a fluffy ethereal concept.” ― Anthony Kiedis, lead singer, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and author of Scar Tissue
But that’s the cycle of addiction.
Rather than be trapped in the loop of addiction, travel that road again and see what you missed on the first trip.
“…It’s why we have this second chance, and we can’t throw it away. Besides, you were the one who said we’re not exactly the same as we were back then. If we’re not the same, then things can turn out differently.” ― Michelle Madow
In our addiction, we keep having the same experiences, over, and over, and over, like an endless loop.
By: Marilyn L. Davis How Do You Discuss Your Life? “If you took one-tenth the energy you put into complaining and applied it to solving the problem, you’d be surprised by how well things can work out… Complaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Any […]
I Gave Up Drugs, Why Can’t I Function?
I got into recovery and wasn’t functioning well, because I did not realize how much damage I had done to my body and brain.
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As a child of, a wife of, a niece of, and probably a granddaughter of an alcoholic, I developed my own case of Alcoholism. My bottle did not contain liquor; it contained Worry and an assortment of other poisonous spirits that lured me into a wild-and-crazy way of dancing through my life.
When you learn to separate the various pieces of the puzzle, they become manageable pieces – to change, keep, or modify. This makes any overwhelming problem puzzle easier to solve.
Some family and friends never extend the same amount of trust because they simply will not put themselves in a vulnerable position again. The pain our addiction caused them is too much to forget so quickly.
Did I realize that I’d taken up arms against my children when I started using? No, I did not set out to harm them; however, that was the result. And just as the history books record the injustices done, each of my children recollects the harm from her perspective.
The success of your recovery depends on maintaining vigilance or awareness. You’ve worked hard to give up drugs and alcohol; that’s the getting into recovery. Unfortunately, some people get complacent or self-satisfied when they have accomplished a part of the whole. It’s rather like someone saying they want to eat some cake for dessert and then stopping with only the eggs and flour in the bowl, but saying, “Look, I’m making a cake. I think I’ll take a break.”
By: Marilyn L. Davis “I believe in recovery, and as a role model, I have the responsibility to let young people know that you can make a mistake and come back from it.” ― Ann Richards A Public Role Models for All of Us ___ ___ Ann Richards became the 45th governor of Texas. She appointed record numbers […]
I am not by nature a happy person. I’ve often said in a judgmental way that, “Happy is just one of the Seven Dwarfs.” But after he left our session, I decided to re-frame my perception. Rather than stating that I’m content and satisfied, I inserted happy about the circumstances in my life, happy about what I do for a living, happy with my relationships, and happy about my living environment.
