Recovery: How Are You Learning the Lessons?

By marilynldavis

When we’re challenged with a lesson in our recovery, if we approach them from the perspective of “here’s a problem area or issue, and I’ve got an opportunity to learn from others”, it seems less harsh or traumatic.

Stop Balking at the Changes

By marilynldavis

It is when we cannot see that changes are going to make our life better or that we will feel better because of the modification, we often balk, resist, or create obstacles to change. We give into fears, discuss how difficult it is to change, and create excuses so we don’t have to change.

Are You More Afraid of Staying the Same or Changing?

By marilynldavis

For most of us, we’re afraid when we think about changing the patterns of our lives, whether it’s giving up drugs or alcohol, or changing the way we think, feel, and act. After all, we have done or been something for so long that those actions, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are mechanical or habituated. These predictable actions are the norm, and when we leave the comfort zone, we get anxious.

Addiction Distorts – Recovery Transforms

By marilynldavis

How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.

Recovery: What Do I Do? I Don’t Understand!

By marilynldavis

It gets frustrating to keep asking for clarification sometimes; again because we think we are smart enough to understand it the first time. However, asking questions is better than making mistakes. The adage of measure twice, cut once comes to mind.