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Posted on June 23, 2020November 13, 2020

Our barriers are self-imposed for the most part. That's both good and bad news. Good because it's an attitude within us, and therefore, we can change it. However, that's the downside, too as most of us don't like to feel uncomfortable in our life choices<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/5-common-barriers-change/></div>

5 Common Barriers to Change

Stop Balking at the Changes marilyn l davis from addict 2 advocate

Posted on December 7, 2019December 22, 2020

It is when we cannot see that changes are going to make our life better or that we will feel better because of the modification, we often balk, resist, or create obstacles to change. We give into fears, discuss how difficult it is to change, and create excuses so we don't have to change.<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/stop-balking-at-the-changes/></div>

Stop Balking at the Changes

Posted on November 3, 2019November 4, 2019

That's the thing about reacting. Often it's when we don't feel in control of a situation, or we have predicted the outcome before it happens. But I had to find a solution, or I'd explode on someone else, or implode and feel crappy.<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/recovery-reacting-or-responding/></div>

Recovery: Reacting or Responding?

Posted on October 26, 2019February 13, 2020

If you think about this logically, anyone that “falls in love” with you early in your recovery is getting involved with a person that you are trying to change. Therefore, you would have to stay the same to sustain the relationship, and that would be the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish in yo<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/if-they-love-you-now-why-change/></div>

If They Love You Now, Why Change?

Posted on July 8, 2019July 9, 2019

People in my recovery support meetings said I had to look at myself, when that was the last thing I wanted to do. I disliked what I saw in a mirror, let alone go within to discover that I was like the Picture of Dorian Gray, presenting favorably to the world, but full of self-serving, self-centered, unhealthy characteristics, and a perception of evil inside. It was difficult to face, that much like Dorian, I had sold my soul to my addiction. <div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/what-does-it-mean-to-look-at-yourself-in-recovery/></div>

What Does It Mean to ‘Look at Yourself’ in Recovery?

from addict 2 advocate marilyn l davis transforming distorting

Posted on June 9, 2019June 10, 2019

How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/addiction-is-distorting-recovery-is-transforming/></div>

Addiction is Distorting, Recovery is Transforming

manipulation from addict 2 advocate marilyn l davis

Posted on June 4, 2019December 24, 2020

We have all manipulated people. But most of us have a preferred method of manipulation. When you learn to spot yours, then you can decide if your manipulation comes at too great a cost and change the behaviors.<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/what-does-your-manipulation-cost-you/></div>

What Does Your Manipulation Cost You?

Is Long-term Recovery Your Goal? marilyn l davis from addict 2 advocate

Posted on March 3, 2018February 15, 2021

We carry out recovery as a goal, much like any other goal. Want a new car or house and cannot simply write a check? Then you know that you will have to save money to carry out the goal. Want a better opportunity for a lucrative job? Then you know that you need either a college degree or specialized training to help this goal. All of these goals take incremental actions to define and bring about your stated goal.<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/is-long-term-recovery-your-goal/></div>

Is Long-term Recovery Your Goal?

Posted on December 28, 2017February 2, 2021

When we approach repeating life lessons as an opportunity to act better and improve our relationships, we appreciate "it" happening again, which gives us the opportunity to act differently. So, just as Phil learned his lessons, in recovery, we can learn ours and act differently.<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/recovery-groundhog-day-and-life/></div>

Recovery, Groundhog Day, and Life

Posted on November 3, 2017November 3, 2017

Even after years of therapy for the trauma and depression, I still mourn for that hurt little girl who has never been the same. No, no longer a victim, just sometimes it still hits me and adds to “down days.” <div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/recovery-and-mental-illness-not-easy-some-days/></div>

Recovery and Mental Illness: Not Easy Some Days

Posted on September 4, 2017December 17, 2018

But why do people use? In each of the three categories there's a common denominator - feelings and emotions. You know, those things that we do our best to guard and to avoid discussing. The way we deal with them often dictates how our day will be and how we respond or react to different situations. <div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/feeling-will-pass/></div>

It’s A Feeling; It Will Pass

Posted on August 1, 2017August 1, 2017

As a female, I have been called by and answered to, many labels and descriptors. Some have vanished from our politically correct vocabulary as well they should have; others, however, have cropped up and taken their place, only to be disparaged enough that they are now uttered by the truly brave or truly ignorant.<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/were-women-in-recovery-why-are-we-still-labeled-whores/></div>

We’re Women in Recovery: Why Are We Still Labeled Whores?

Posted on July 13, 2017July 19, 2017

How often do you pay attention to your thoughts? Have you ever sat back and taken a close look at how your thoughts influence the way you feel, and behave? Have you recognized how you tend to think about your life situations; are you positive or negative about them? Thoughts are a very powerful thing, and influence your life in unimaginable ways. <div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" class="sharethis-inline-share-buttons" data-url=https://fromaddict2advocate.com/recovery-is-changing-those-habitual-thoughts/></div>

Category: healing in recovery

5 Common Barriers to Change

Stop Balking at the Changes

Recovery: Reacting or Responding?

If They Love You Now, Why Change?

What Does It Mean to ‘Look at Yourself’ in Recovery?

What Does Your Manipulation Cost You?

Is Long-term Recovery Your Goal?

Recovery, Groundhog Day, and Life

Recovery and Mental Illness: Not Easy Some Days

It’s A Feeling; It Will Pass

We’re Women in Recovery: Why Are We Still Labeled Whores?

Recovery is Changing Those Habitual Thoughts

Finding North: A Journey from Addict to Advocate

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