By: Marilyn L. Davis Whatever You’re Feeling – They Will Come Out Think about all those bottled up and numbed feelings that you ignored in your use. Guess what? They didn’t go away. They’ve just been waiting until you stopped using to pop back up. And now, you don’t know what to do…
But why do people use? In each of the three categories there’s a common denominator – feelings and emotions. You know, those things that we do our best to guard and to avoid discussing. The way we deal with them often dictates how our day will be and how we respond or react to different situations.
Our barriers are self-imposed for the most part. That’s both good and bad news. Good because it’s an attitude within us, and therefore, we can change it. However, that’s the downside, too as most of us don’t like to feel uncomfortable in our life choices
It is when we cannot see that changes are going to make our life better or that we will feel better because of the modification, we often balk, resist, or create obstacles to change. We give into fears, discuss how difficult it is to change, and create excuses so we don’t have to change.
That’s the thing about reacting. Often it’s when we don’t feel in control of a situation, or we have predicted the outcome before it happens. But I had to find a solution, or I’d explode on someone else, or implode and feel crappy.