Recovery Means No More Fake Appearances

By marilynldavis

Addiction forces us to present a fake appearance. We smile, when every fiber of our being is screaming in pain. We posture as friendly, when all we want to do is get our dope and leave. We pretend that we have it all together when we take our children to school or football. We show fake emotions because we are so embarrassed and frightened by our authentic ones. 

Are You More Afraid of Staying the Same or Changing?

By marilynldavis

For most of us, we’re afraid when we think about changing the patterns of our lives, whether it’s giving up drugs or alcohol, or changing the way we think, feel, and act. After all, we have done or been something for so long that those actions, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are mechanical or habituated. These predictable actions are the norm, and when we leave the comfort zone, we get anxious.

Recovery Started with Participation in Treatment

By marilynldavis

By: Marilyn L Davis     Participation: Start with Your Counselor     “I found the prospect daunting, but somehow comforting, too, because the counselors insisted it could be done, and, after all, many of them were recovering alcoholics themselves.” ― Craig Ferguson, American on Purpose: The Improbable Adventures of an Unlikely Patriot   Recently someone referred…

Recovery, Groundhog Day, and Life

By marilynldavis

When we approach repeating life lessons as an opportunity to act better and improve our relationships, we appreciate “it” happening again, which gives us the opportunity to act differently.

So, just as Phil learned his lessons, in recovery, we can learn ours and act differently.