Our barriers are self-imposed for the most part. That’s both good and bad news. Good because it’s an attitude within us, and therefore, we can change it. However, that’s the downside, too as most of us don’t like to feel uncomfortable in our life choices
It is when we cannot see that changes are going to make our life better or that we will feel better because of the modification, we often balk, resist, or create obstacles to change. We give into fears, discuss how difficult it is to change, and create excuses so we don’t have to change.
Some family and friends never extend the same amount of trust because they simply will not put themselves in a vulnerable position again. The pain our addiction caused them is too much to forget so quickly.
They only will have a chance to make it if they do the footwork. If I keep secrets that leads to shame and shame feeds the addiction. I found out that I don’t always need an umbrella and a lifejacket, and I can try new things and new ways. Not everyone in this World was put here to make my life miserable; there are good, kind people here. I’m not so bad as long as I’m sober!