Noticed Negative Patterns of Behavior? Then Make Changes

By marilynldavis

By: Marilyn L. Davis ____ Isolated Incidents or a Pattern of Behaviors?   “If we experience any failures or setbacks, we do not forget them because they offend our self-esteem. Instead, we reflect on them deeply, trying to figure out what went wrong and discerned whether there are any patterns to our mistakes.” Robert Greene When…

If They Love You Now, Why Change?

By marilynldavis

If you think about this logically, anyone that “falls in love” with you early in your recovery is getting involved with a person that you are trying to change. Therefore, you would have to stay the same to sustain the relationship, and that would be the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish in yo

Addiction Distorts – Recovery Transforms

By marilynldavis

How convenient and dishonest to say that all the harmful things I did to people were in my use. Then I could blame my behaviors, attitudes and actions on a substance, not the shadow aspects of myself or my character defects. Although my use distorted my thinking, behaviors, and attitudes, it was the shadow aspects or myself and my character defects that fueled my actions as much as my use.

Recovery, Groundhog Day, and Life

By marilynldavis

When we approach repeating life lessons as an opportunity to act better and improve our relationships, we appreciate “it” happening again, which gives us the opportunity to act differently.

So, just as Phil learned his lessons, in recovery, we can learn ours and act differently.