Choices, Conflict, and Change

By: Marilyn L. Davis





“It’s not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear. . . . It’s like being between trapezes. It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There’s nothing to hold on to. ~Marilyn Ferguson


But I Know this World!


Many of us stood on the metaphorical platform holding onto the only thing we knew – using. We often realized that one misplaced step and we’d be free falling into the abyss once again. Because that’s what our addiction does, it takes us down.

Unlike the trapeze artist, we usually don’t have a safety net to catch us when we fall.

And usually, we fall hard, fast, and sometimes, with deadly consequences.


Will I Free Fall and Fail Again?


We’re consumed with fears, some realistic and some not. Because many people failed in their attempts at recovery before, they continue to stand there. Doing nothing but letting their fear of the unknown keep them stuck.



Recovery Offers the Safety Net


I know it’s frightening to give up drugs and alcohol. I can remember on that night in 1988 when I realized that I was in withdrawal, couldn’t hide that fact, and had a choice to make – do I cooperate with treatment and hopefully get better, or do I gut this out and go back to using?

That was a difficult choice. But I chose to stay and get better.

That choice didn’t mean I was without fear, but people surrounded me and helped me. They became a safety net of sorts.


Still Afraid?


I value words. I think they have the ability to console us, motivate us, and encourage us. I remember reading Emma Donghue, and loving this quote, “Scared is what you’re feeling. Brave is what you’re doing.”


Let’s Be Brave Today


Am I fearless? No. I have merely decided that I’ll be brave while still feeling scared. I know that 23 million other people are in recovery and will stand by me and encourage me; that helps me be brave and take the next leap of faith. 

  • What are you doing today that demonstrates your bravery?
  • How are you overcoming your fears and moving forward in your recovery?
  • What is the biggest fear you’ve had to deal with in your recovery?
  • We talk about “feel the fear and do it anyway.” What do you think is the bravest thing you’ve ever done?


Writing and recovery heals the heart.


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