I was in treatment with over 80 other people, all of us with a substance abuse problem, but not all experiencing the same intervention techniques, reality checks, or bottoms.
Some members of my group lived in abandoned buildings, others resided in mansions paid for by their basketball earnings, and others flopped with whatever family member they could manipulate into giving them a roof over their heads.
“The thing about hitting bottom is that, in the middle of it, sometimes you don’t know if you’re really hitting bottom or just bouncing off ledges on your way further down.” ―Frederick Weisel, Teller
One woman, who closely resembled a young Elizabeth Taylor, would stand next to the patient bulletin board and help direct traffic. I assumed she was a staff member. She seemed poised, together, and cheerful. I asked her for directions on my second day out of detox, and she said, “I’m going to that group; just follow me.”
Imagine my shock when it turned out that she was a patient. I am someone who can preen, fluff the hair, and do all those beauty routines, and five minutes later, I still look like an unmade bed.
Here she was, seemingly self-confident, self-assured, positive, and helpful. I then assumed that she was nearing the completion of her treatment to look and act so positive. Wrong again.
High Bottoms: No Less Painful
Her bottom was not being able to tuck her child into bed one night. Her five-year-old daughter had gone on her first spend the night party. As sometimes happens, long past her usual bedtime, she wanted to go home.
My friend got a phone call at about 10:30 to come and get her daughter, which wouldn’t usually be a problem. However, that night, she had taken the opportunity to start drinking earlier in the evening. Since she was too drunk to drive, her husband went instead.
Leaning down to adjust the covers over her half-sleeping daughter, she fell into the bed. Now her daughter was awake and crying.
My friend entered treatment the next day.
Bottoms Are Just the Last Place We Land
My bottom was an intervention; Kathleen was not fulfilling her obligations as a mom, Jake was losing his business, and AJ lost a lucrative professional basketball contract.
What was your bottom?
Are you grateful that you reached a bottom and survived?
Are you satisfied with your life now?
If you decide that your life is not good now, are you using too much and disappointing yourself and others?
Then you have an excellent opportunity to choose this moment to be your bottom. You can decide that you won’t go any further down to satisfy your addiction. It is a time when you stand up for yourself and choose to make life changes.
So you now decide to quit using. With this decision, you’ll stop disappointing yourself and others if you follow some simple guidelines from people who are in recovery.
What can you do, and what can you expect? You may need detox, depending on what you have used. Detox is a medical issue, depending on withdrawal or the threats from DT’s or seizures. Get a professional evaluation of your decision to quit using and claim this as your bottom.
If you do not need detox or have finished your detox, how do you stay in recovery? You’ve got some options for recovery after detox. Some you might consider are:
Regardless of how you find support, guidance, and encouragement for your recovery, know that it is easier to stay in recovery with help.
When We Didn’t Pay Attention
I’ve always thought that the quote fromIsraelmore Ayivorspeaks to all the ways we’ve tried to overcome our addiction independently and haven’t been successful.
“You need to GIVE UP on methods that always give you wrong results… No matter how committed you are to a wrong formula, it always gives a wrong answer. Give up!”
Many people have tried to recover and hit yet another lower bottom because they keep trying ineffective methods. If this has happened to you, this bottom can be the last if you do things differently.
Life is Looking Up
If you’ve decided that your methods haven’t worked and want a different outcome, here’s what’s waiting for you when you reach a bottom and climb.
When you find the right support for you, your life takes on new meaning and purpose. Recovery taught me to view this life as a journey. Now, “journey” is a word I do not like. However, like so many other things in this world of addiction, it is commonly used vernacular or lingo. (Sorry for that personal bias; I am sure some of the negative association is with the band of the same name.)
Whether you call your recovery a journey,a second chance,an opportunity to change, or the way up-embrace it and value it.
By staying in recovery, you don’t have to experience another bottom when you change, listen to people in meetings, and find ways to help others.
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