Recovery: When You Contribute, We All Learn

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We had a new member in our group tonight. Most of the women have over six months in recovery and facilitating this group, I’ve gotten to know them.  I never expect the newest to speak first, but always acknowledge them and let them know that they may either speak first or let us know when they are ready to introduce themselves; but to always feel free to contribute to the conversation at any time.

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Recovery Is Changing The Pattern of Behaviors

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By: Marilyn L. Davis __ Isolated Incidents or a Pattern of Behaviors?      When any behavior becomes the normal response or reaction to life or the typical way you act, the actions become a ‘pattern of behavior.’ In our active addiction, we created many patterns: Manipulation to get our drugs Blaming others for our […]

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Hitting Bottom: High Ones, Low Ones, and Choosing One

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Many people have tried to recover and hit yet another lower bottom because they keep trying unsuccessful methods.  If this has happened to you, then this bottom can be the last if you do things differently.
 
I’ve always thought that the quote from Israelmore Ayivor speaks to all the ways we’ve tried to overcome our addiction on our own, and haven’t been successful. “You need to GIVE UP on methods that always give you wrong results… No matter how committed you are with a wrong formula, it always gives a wrong answer. Give up!” 

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Warmed By the Hearth Fire: Dealing with Grief in Recovery

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And so it is.  I will go through the grief process, but I will take consolation in the hearth fire of others, and know that there will be a new day, a tomorrow. Each of us has a way of reaching out and touching another through our words, a gentle reminder of worth, or encouragement when things are difficult.

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Recovery is Removing the Masks

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Addiction forces us to wear a false image. We smile, when every fiber of our being is screaming in pain. We posture as friendly, when all we want to do is get our dope and leave. We pretend that we have it all together when we take our children to school or football. We show fake emotions because we are so embarrassed and frightened by our authentic ones. 

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