By: Marilyn L. Davis
My Comfort Zone Just Got Uncomfortable
“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.” ― Roy T. Bennett
When you realize that there is a problem or you do not like a particular thing, you often have the desire to change something. It can also mean that you no longer deny that a problem exists.
You’re uncomfortable with the way your life is going, or your using is no longer satisfying. You’re tired of the consequences, the lost opportunities, and the financial drain, and you’re finally willing to do something differently, whether it’s an action, an attitude, or you start thinking and feeling differently about a particular situation.
But, if you find yourself in the cycle of only identifying the problem and complaining about it or commenting on it, ask yourself if you truly have both the desire to change something and are willing to make an effort to change the problem.
Making Changes Means Leaving the Comfort Zone
Merely complaining or commenting on a problem can create a lot of frustration, tension, and guilt. It can also set you up for disappointment from others when they attempt to help with a solution, and you reject it by not following through with it. I know you stay stuck in your comfort zone because it’s familiar.
If, on the other hand, you decide that you do want to change, there can still be some obstacles. For instance, you see a problem and know that something must change but are unable to think of a solution to correct it. Alternatively, you know the answer but are unsure how to put it into action.
What Do You Need for Change to Occur?
Changing is a process that takes courage, willingness, and effort to accomplish. But you have the resolve to do it with a few simple steps:__
- Acknowledge that a problem exists or there is something that you would like to change
- Be willing to put effort into the solution
- Know how to change or modify the problem for the better or be prepared to ask knowledgeable people how to change it
- Identify what actions or attitudes are necessary to accomplish the change
- Determine any obstacles or hindrances to change to see if you need additional help or guidance
What Keeps People Stuck in their Comfort Zone?
Many people stay stuck in the “desire to change” phase of recovery. Some reasons why you stay in that phase are:
- You want to change but do not know how to change.
- The changes don’t seem rewarding enough to do the work required.
- You think if you say you want to change, that should be enough.
- People may expect more changes from you if you start changing.
- You believe that your changes will never be good enough for some people in your life.
Changing ourselves is about problem-solving. Take any problem, break it up into its parts, and see if it does not become less fearful and more readily accomplished. If you do not know how to change something but genuinely want to change, ask others how they achieved a certain change.
Who Are Your Resources for Leaving Your Comfort Zone?
Each of us in recovery has had to leave our familiar comfort zone. We changed, whether it was an intervention, getting sick and tired of being sick and tired, hitting bottom, or finally listening to others. And that includes 23 million people in recovery, so that’s a lot of resources. But where can you find them?
- Sponsors/accountability partners
- People in recovery supportive meetings
- Social Media Pages Dedicated to Recovery
Looking at the list, you see that you have many resources to ask. Not all of them will have a specific solution for your particular change; they may not have had to change that aspect of themselves, or they may not think they know enough to help anyone else.
Regardless, you know that you would ask multiple people for solutions if it involved your use, so you have to be just as diligent in asking for help with the change.
If you ask enough people in recovery, there is sure to be someone that left their comfort zone and can help you leave yours. Click To Tweet
Overcome the Fear and Leave Your Comfort Zone
Change can produce fear but reflect on your life before recovery, and you realize that fear was present there as well, but you overcame it to accomplish something. We overcame our fears of cops and reprimands by families or employers and got our dope. We weren’t worried enough not to take action.
For some of you, it is the fear of the unknown, fear of success or failure, or fear that the “changed you” will not be as interesting as the old you.
To quiet your fears, you can safely expect that if you do what other people have done to solve a similar problem, you will receive similar results when you make the same changes or take the same actions that they did.
If we genuinely want to change, the change process works for life situations that we don’t like and certainly for our recovery.
Bio: Marilyn L. Davis
Marilyn L. Davis is the Editor-in-Chief at From Addict 2 Advocate and Two Drops of Ink. She is also the author of Finding North: A Journey from Addict to Advocate and Memories into Memoir: The Mindsets and Mechanics Workbook, available on Amazon, at Barnes and Noble, Indie Books, and Books A Million.
For editing services, contact her at email@example.com.
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