Out with the Old – In with the New
The process of recovery consists of making significant adjustments in our lives. Upon entering the process, we come with plenty of baggage that has weighed us down for years. This baggage has dictated how we move about in this world, and since it’s been so heavy, it’s restricted us from entering places in the world that many of us have yearned to be a part of.
Due to this heavy load and the room it has taken up in our lives, we felt we would never fit. As a result of this we decided to maintain our position and associations with those who didn’t believe our baggage was too much to bear.
With this said, we must begin looking at the baggage, our associations and behaviors that have brought us to this place in order to begin rifling through to see what has been a hindrance to our growth as a person in recovery. It’s time to go through some of the baggage and rid ourselves of what has had a negative impact on our recovery.
- Begin reaching out to those in recovery
- Get involved in recovery based functions
- Inquire about making a commitment in a given meeting (being a coffee maker or greeter)
- Obtain a sponsor
- Talk to those who you wouldn’t normally speak to that are in self-help meetings
- Don’t focus on individual differences, look at similarities when trying to make a new connection
Places: Finding Something New
- Attend a meeting before or after work
- Instead of going to the bar on the weekend, gather a few people from your support network and go to dinner.
- There are recovery events that local 12-step meeting groups organize (dances, hiking, camping, etc.)
- Locate social events that will not have a negative impact on your recovery
Things: Look for the Triggers
- When it comes to a certain song that reminded us of using, we have a wide variety of choices and genre’s of music that we can now enjoy without that recall.
- Certain smells that bring us back to that time requires us to modify thinking and realize that we are no longer in those places where we used substances; we are in a safer place in our lives.
- Things like lighters and maybe spoons will take time to adjust to. Lighters are used in everyday society for different uses other that substances. Spoons are utensils used for eating. It may sound easier said than done, but as the quality of our recovery increases we begin to have changed thinking around these things.
- Being creative with their hands
- Just taking a walk in the park observing the natural environment
- Reading or Writing
- Sports (actually playing the sport for leisure activity)